Quick demo of how a dyslexic brain works

April 19, 2013

This is very helpful to any people with learning difficulties and parents or teachers who want to know more.It doesn’t matter what age you are.

Get losing weight now!

January 6, 2013

WL ontrack revWhat about weight loss with absolute caring, personal help for 3 months?

My Bolt to Success program ensures the rubbish foods/drinks are kicked out, that you have no desire for sweet and fattening food, that you eat the size portions you need and actually leave food on your plate if there is too much. It also delves into the whys and wherefores of your eating nipping the triggers in the bud.  More about those in another blog. The important thing is to get started now while you are thinking about it.

  1. Ring for free 20 min phone/skype chat – to work out what you want to achieve and how to do it.  Contact me here
  2. Book your first consultation – it will be in person, or on Skype.
  3. Pay and get the online program – you will get the link and be able to start immediately even before your first consultation.
  4. Start learning all sorts of wonderful things: enjoy the completely different weight loss process of consultations, audios and videos.
  5. Notice the difference to your thoughts, attitude to food and the way you feel and look. It is a great feeling!

Start here!

Well, here is 2013! Let’s get on track for success.

January 2, 2013

Our life is like a road. Think of it as a motorway with lots of side roads. Sometimes everything is going well and we are moving fast in the right direction. However, sometimes we get side tracked and end up on another road, and other times it seems like we are way off course, have hit a bumpy road, or even a road block

So, thinking of 2012, were you on a motorway? Was your journey planned or did it seem like a pretty aimless year?  For instance if you had plotted it into your Sat Nav are you in a better place now than where you were last January?

Let’s make 2013 even better. There will be many journeys this year and wouldn’t it be great if each one were taking you someplace exciting. Are you ready to put your foot to the floor for some adventure? And, thinking of yourself as that vehicle; are you a sleek racing car; or an older model with some rust, some dints, very little power, and perhaps no spare in the boot; or maybe you are a younger model that’s been a bit thrashed with the wrong fuel and little attention?

images-27It’s not much use expecting a great road ahead if the car hasn’t the power and resources to travel it!  Not forgetting that while a car can be easily replaced, your body can’t. You are stuck with it for your entire life.

You can, however, get it fixed.

Maybe you haven’t been firing on all cylinders and an energy tune up would help. That will make a huge difference immediately. Then you can learn to recharge your batteries with decent sleep. Things holding you back like smoking, frustration, stress, pain, guilt and anger can be found and freed. Fear, insecurity, anxiety and worries can be flushed away. Overweight, lethargy, lack of confidence, even depression, can also be cleared.

Let’s get rid of the blockages, the potholes and obstacles in the way. Let’s open and smooth your road ahead, let it become clearer, far easier to travel. Be open to new opportunities along the way. Success is within us all.

images-26Make 2013 a far better year, perhaps a brilliant year, starting with a decent ‘tune up’, an MOT, and then some help to programme your mind and body for success. Get yourself on the right road, then put your foot down, enjoy the scenery, and feel the wind through your hair.

Gentle, supportive, assistance to deal with all New Years Resolutions so you are free to have an amazing year.  In person or on Skype.

Driving test to pass

October 29, 2012

I like the variety of my work and recently had another 18 year old lad arrive with some frustration issues. At over 6 foot he reminded me just how quickly boys grow into young men and how they still have social and communication skills to learn. He was wanting to pass his driving test and, while perfectly capable, he was ‘losing it’ at the test every time. He had tried five times already.

So, what was it that was creating the anxiety and frustration? Everyone had told him he was a very capable driver, but he just wasn’t comfortable at the test. Firstly, the waiting unsettled him; everyone waiting for their turn. Then, having a non committal instructor sitting beside him with a sheet on a clipboard to mark bad points off, and finally the knowing at the end he had failed yet again. In fact he clearly remembered the instructors words at the end each time, and the places where he had failed.

I think that just having someone else to discuss this all with is helpful. For instance realising that the examiner is having another day at work and passing and failing is a part of that day. It is his job to make sure people he/she passes are competent on the roads. It is not their fault that the person fails. And, realising that the brain remembers many things good and bad, and will repeat them, allowed him to understand that the memories of past tests could be easily repeated. We needed to break the negative cycle and increase positive thoughts.

Now, I taught this lad some helpful calming techniques which he started using immediately in all sorts of situations so they could become ingrained. He started noticing he was being more open in the classroom, asking and answering questions. He caught himself singing at one point which made him feel like something nice was happening. Other small changes showed he was becoming more relaxed and confident.

At the third session we brought it altogether in a lovely hypnotherapy session. He used his calming techniques as we ran through some imaginary tests, including all the places he had previously lost points but this time doing the moves perfectly. He even got to see himself being told he had passed and feel the elation of that, followed by the thrill of being more independent, able to drive safely on his own.

The next day I received a text that he had passed. He noted he had used the techniques to help him feel calm and it had all worked. He was delighted. Well done!  Actually, a lot more was achieved than the successful driving test.

Lots on my facebook page

September 8, 2012

There’s lots of interesting information and links on my Facebook page. Flick through here and if you like please click the LIKE button at the top for me.

Do you know someone who snores?

May 11, 2012

Are you kept awake with this snorting and noise? Are you having to shove that person over through the night? or, are you listen

hypnosis mp3 to stop snoring

Stop snoring with this hypnosis audio

ing from a distance and wishing they would deal with it? Are you embarrassed about having visitors in the house, or going away on holiday with your snorer?

Well, I have news for you. The new stop snoring audio is now available. Click the photo for more.

It is in both mp3 and CD. You suggest your snorer needs help, you tell them it is simple. They listen in bed, when they are ready to go to sleep, straight from an ipod or listening device of some kind. All they have to do is put the headphones in and listen. At the end they discard the headphones, roll over and go to sleep. Simple!  They are in bed anyway so it’s easy. They have nothing to lose except the sound, and much to gain with a happy, rested, household. You will get your sleep.

Snoring is caused by fatty tissue slightly obstructing the passage of air through the throat. This pleasant hypnotic audio works to tighten the muscles around that area, and also brings awareness of when snoring starts so they can turn themselves over and sleep quietly on. Listening details are included.

We know that snoring is more common in those carrying extra weight or after a night out drinking. However, in some cases the fatty tissue is so pronounced that the air is blocked and every so often the breathing stops. This is called sleep apnea and should be discussed straight away with your Doctor.

Teachers and stress

July 25, 2011

In the run up to year end I have noticed an influx of teachers with accumulated stress conditions. There is just so much paperwork and planning and activities and pressure and responsibilities faced by teachers today, and despite the term breaks they are expected to attend meetings, and prepare for next term, during them. Some are even studying further as well.

Most of those I see love their job, but it is getting the better of them. They are plodding on, with a stiff upper lip, not wanting to take time off because it will impact their good attendance record. They see me in private preferring to keep it quiet.

So many teachers suffer tenseness in their shoulders, arms and hands, anxiety in their stomachs, and tight chests. Shallow breathing is a classic sign of tension.  At home signs of stress are irritability, complete tiredness, or lack of sleep, worries during the night, aches and pains, panic attacks, emotional outbursts, lack of sex drive. Many grind their teeth, many get IBS (a classic sign of stress), while others get irritable, and others are even depressed.  Stress needs to be addressed or it turns into nasties like long term chronic illnesses and cancers.

At school a stressed teacher will cover this up, after all they have a job, some teachers don’t. Health is not discussed in depth, they grit their teeth and carry on, as they always have. There is too much else to do and think about, and besides, you don’t admit defeat, blot your copy book, by admitting it is difficult to cope, by admitting that you are on medication, such as anti depressants.

School budgets now include provision for dealing with stress and sickness. Like all businesses, if someone is off sick the school has to use up precious money to pay them, as well as their replacement.  Double pay for one job.  It is in the schools best interests to nip stress in the bud, to look after their teachers. Yet, it is up to the teachers to admit that they need that help, that they are not superhuman. Many still do not.

I am on the school supply list, a supplier of stress relief to schools who wish to get their teachers back in the classroom as quickly as possible. Whether they come via their school, or by themselves, this work is very confidential, yet targeted. It has an empowering effect and teachers can relate to it well. They have amazing inner resources of durability and positivity and I work with these to get the change they need. It is a combined effort for their benefit.

It is quite likely others in similar professions can relate to this, nurses and healthcare workers, too. If this resonates with you come and deal with it, the sooner you look after yourself the better.

Do you worry?

April 16, 2011

Last month I talked about anxieties and how they can turn into panic attacks. This resonated with quite a number of people. At the other end of the anxiety scale is worrying.

People who are worriers worry about their school, their job, their kids, their parents, their past and their future. They think ‘what if this happens’ and ‘what if that happens’ and all sorts of other ‘what if’s’.  Often they lack confidence and decision making skills.

Recently a girl came who loves riding but since she’d had a fall she was worrying unnecessarily. What if she was riding and something frightened him, what if she was on her own, what if she had another fall. She was an experienced rider, she knew the horse had the loveliest temperament and had never bolted before. She knew that at the time it was just an unusual circumstance, but she couldn’t help it, she was worrying. She wasn’t happy riding anymore and was having to think of excuses why she wasn’t going out. Her passion for riding had been replaced with worry, fear and lack of confidence. She was thinking that she should sell her lovely horse.

Golfers worry too. They make a duff shot on a hole, miss the ball completely, or it goes somewhere it shouldn’t, and they feel acutely embarrassed and fed up with themselves. Next thing they start worrying whether they will do it again and sure enough they do!  It can become a self fulfilling prophesy. If it continues then over time they lose their confidence and their enjoyment of the game and consider giving it up.

Exam times are a classic worry time. What if I am late, what if I haven’t studied enough, what if I run out of time, what if I don’t pass, what if ….

Worry can spiral, it can seem irrational but unstoppable. Worriers know well enough that they shouldn’t be worrying but people telling them to relax just makes it worse. Some give in and say ‘I am a born worrier”

So, if this sounds like you, what do you do about it?  Well, its no point continuing to worry that’s for sure, or burying your head in the sand. It won’t get better that way.

Seek some objective help. Family and friends can try but don’t have the objectiveness, nor the skills. Find an experienced person who can work with you to bring things back into perspective, to help let the tenseness go, and not just a listener either. You want someone who you can talk to confidentially, learn from, and you want value for time and money. If you need such a person perhaps I can help. My first 20 minutes is free for you to decide if my way seems right. If it is then after the hour and a half you could leave feeling very relaxed and positive about your choice. It may not take very long to sort you out at all!

Some nice recent successes

March 26, 2011

I am delighted to see people coming in having made such delightful changes and periodically like to report on these. Maybe it will help someone else who is considering coming to see me.

Some people spend a lot of unnecessary time worrying. One such man came to see me because it was getting out of hand. He has been paranoid about his teenage son going out at night. So bad that the whole family is on edge. He couldn’t sleep and was even sitting in the car in the middle of the night just in case the boy rang and needed a lift home. He came into his third and last session with a big smile on his face. Not only is he more relaxed, rational, and trusting of the son but he had been in a work meeting that morning and comfortably put his point forward which he has never have done previously.

Just this week a man returned after a year. He’s a middle aged city businessman who had been consuming too much alcohol and had put on way too much weight. He had 2 sessions last April and I hadn’t heard back from him. He was looking really good having lost over a stone and a half. This was due to the cut back on the wine, and less pizzas. He was just coming back, as I often recommend, for a one session boost to keep him on track.

Teachers suffer lots of stress which can bring on IBS. Hypnotherapy is recognised as a good treatment for IBS. Since January, and over 5 sessions, I have been seeing a caring head teacher with little time to herself. Like all my clients she is getting a very personalised service and has recordings to listen to between sessions. I was delighted to hear this week that despite her increased work demands her stomach has settled down and she has had 2 weeks where she hasn’t been in pain or suffered the crippling IBS cramps she has had for years.  This is good news for us to build on.

Another lady this week was pleased to let me know her weight is leaving at long last. We have had about 3 sessions over 5 weeks.  She has stopped biting her nails and was thrilled to show me them growing. She has dropped off a pile of worrying about her grownup kids, and the scales are starting to show that what we are doing is all working. She was buzzing and it was so good to see.

And talking about buzzing I worked with EFT to help shift some tinnitus this week. It was quite bizarre the way it worked. While it was his very first session with me, and all new to him, I am hopeful we may be able to make more progress next time.

Everyone is different and so we fine tune it between us as we go.

Anxiety problems

March 21, 2011

Approximately 80% of people I see come with anxiety of one form or another. Anything from presentation anxiety to driving and flying anxieties, and then to deep rooted worries from maybe sexual abuse, bereavements, relationship issues or a myriad of others.

Sleeplessness, night time teeth grinding, tenseness, snappiness, or withdrawal can be a direct result of anxiety or worry.

If you have acute anxiety, it becomes a panic attack and you will know what I mean. You are in a certain situation and then all of a sudden your palms get sweaty, your heart starts pounding, your chest feels tight, maybe your breathing becomes shallow. You tense up, a knot develops in your stomach, or butterflies. Maybe you feel nauseous, have trouble thinking clearly or speaking legibly. Most sufferers just want to run and hide. This is not nice.

In most cases as one symptom is felt the next one is anticipated, and then the next. This self monitoring makes the symptoms develop more. The expectation is there, they will happen.  And the worst thing about this is that it happens more frequently and you have no control over it. This can be very frightening and certainly saps energy, and self confidence.

Many withdraw, avoid situations, so they don’t feel embarrassed in front of others.

Women can get this way, especially when they feel self conscious about their weight, and often weight issues go right back to old anxieties. And I know men can get anxious when it comes to work presentations and they often find they cannot progress in their jobs until they deal with it.

Children can get like this, too, at exam times, and often as a result of bullying or verbal abuse, or just pressure to meet their parents’ expectations.

The trick is to break the pattern in a safe and helpful way, and it can be done quite easily if one just asks for the right, objective help to do so. And the nicest thing is that when these old responses are released all of a sudden the world opens up and so many nice things happen.

A recent example was a lovely 16 year old boy whose mother brought for help to relieve his flying anxiety, prior to a school trip. It took three sessions to deal with his issues. He not only had a great trip but the anxiety he had experienced at exam time was also gone.  He is very happy with the outcome, more relaxed, more self confident, and his mother has commented on his new maturity. It has been a good result for the whole family.

Perhaps you know of someone who feels anxious in some way? Please suggest they seek help. Life is too short to waste in worry, fear and tightness. If anyone wants to know more do visit my website and check out the stress and anxiety page and then call for a chat. Maybe I can help.