The fun in my work is the variety. People come for all sorts of things: snoring, teeth grinding, and sleeping; flying, needles, thunder and claustro phobias; finding, mending and improving relationships; and, as I have mentioned before, emotional stressy stuff that brings on anxiety, anger, sadness, comfort eating, drinking and smoking. Often entwined these can be unpicked and leave a person really pleasantly changed within a few weeks, or a few months. The trick is motivation, want to do it, ask for help, and then let it happen.
I love working with sports and creative people; too, they so know what they want to improve. Whether it be a better lap time, a more consistent round of golf, a new technique, dealing with self-consciousness during a performance, a higher note sung, focus to finish a book… there is so much fun in helping them achieve.
Talking about horse riding today. I admire people with horses, they have the tenacity and figures to prove their daily commitment and responsibility. However, I do have riders come who have lost confidence, are scared, anxious and not riding. They are thinking about having to sell their horse, and yet they really want to ride.
Jo was one such person. Her lovely, patient, horse was spooked one day, and took off. She couldn’t stop him. It was really frightening, she very nearly fell off. After that she was fearful about riding him out on her own. That was three months ago. As well as acute anxiety she also felt guilt and anger that she hadn’t controlled him.
Someone at the stable had been to see me about her fear of cantering and was really appreciative of the results. She and Jo talked and Jo gave me a call.
I always take the time to get the full picture. Jo was all tense. We needed to release some negative tension and started the process with some tapping on her energy lines. EFT (emotional Freedom Technique) works a treat for emotional release. She came back for her second session and reported how much calmer she had been, including a riding lesson that went really well, some unusually calm behaviour at home and at work. She was feeling pretty pleased with herself already.
In her second session we dealt with the horse incident and this brought up another anxiety issue from way back. She felt the release and it felt good. She once again left smiling. I was proud of her, she was ready for this. Hypnotherapy followed a week later and she was able to go riding afterwards on her own and even had an exhillerating canter!
Our next goal is to deal with her fear of riding without stirrups.
I have no doubt that her new confidence will ensure she enjoys riding, and over time various other things she hadn’t even anticipated will improve too. This is such positive work!
I guess there may be someone else out there who feels like Jo and may like to deal with it like she did. Just phone, we can do it together.