Christmas thoughts

December 29, 2012

It was another quiet Christmas for us.

IMG_0510Our kids live the other side of the world so we Skype on Christmas eve for their Christmas morning present unwrapping. Looking back my grandparents lived in the UK and living in NZ I only got to see one lot twice in my entire life, and the other lot never. We used to write letters and get little exciting, often homemade, parcels for Christmas which had probably been posted months prior to come by sea.

Now, here we are living in the UK and our grandkids are in NZ and AUS. We chat and skype often and it doesn’t cost a penny. I can post light parcels and they get them in 10 days, I can buy online and they get them delivered free and I can even send them money without posting it. If I want something very specific I can ring the shop there, pay online and get them to collect it.

Because we are only 2 for Christmas we sleep in and then organise our christmas meal to last throughout the day. We don’t have to rush. A glass of wine and a small entree around 11.30am, a couple of hours later a roast meal and then desert/pudding in the evening. A bit of tele, a walk, and some chattering in-between. We don’t need to go overboard with food because we are not used to it and we wouldn’t sleep any good afterwards.

However saying all that I still have a fairly full fridge now and it’s Saturday. There’s left over NZ Christmas lamb, yummy christmas cake, still fresh fruit for fruit salad, there’s some cream, a dip and some fancy cheese. There’s even a little bit of homemade chocolate rocky road left, and some pringles in the cupboard. We’ll have a nice weekend!

I hope we will be with our kids for Christmas next year.

December 20, 2012

Well, here you go… eat and run it off or cut back and sit about. Your choice ūüôā

Thinking of Brisbane and the Sunshine Coast

December 17, 2012

When we start to get cold and damp and wet and the days get shorter and shorter here in the UK I start to think of warmer places like Brisbane and the Sunshine Coast.  Queenslanders will be in the heat of summer getting about in their sunnies, shorts and tee shirts, skimpy summer dresses and their togs (thats Kiwi for swimmers, or bathing costumes if you want to be very pom)

images-35At this time of the year I remember, (yes, I can’t go without saying this which rather dates me) I remember getting up in the weekend mornings, scrambling into my bikini and having a dip in the pool in the garden before getting breakfast going. What a great way to wake up and shower! The warmth dried me and I spent the rest of the weekend similarly attired just putting on a pair thongs, (flipflops to you here) and some shorts to go shopping.

I remember, too, on weekdays walking to, and along, the beach, finishing off with a quick swim, and walking home before changing and driving to work. How nice is that!  Oh, for some Queensland sunshine and sea!

Actually, I will be thinking of Brisbane and the Sunshine coast more after the build up to Christmas because Christmas is very much an English thing and I enjoy that here.  More on that in another blog. Needless to say that even after 10 years away I miss the warmth of the Sunshine Coast,  and to be specific Mooloolaba and Nambour.

Worrying about weight prior to Christmas?

December 16, 2012

Christmas time is party time there is no denying this. All the work parties, the catchup with friends dinner parties, the club parties, the pre-christmas parties, the post-christmas parties, New Years eve parties, and so it goes on.  Food and drink and drink and food and more of the images-32same, and so it goes on!

Now people who are worried about their weight do worry at this time of the year. They know that food and drink is about and it smells so good, it looks so good, and it tastes so good. How can they take care and not over do it?  Will they be miserable and stay at home?  Or will they got out  have fun, ignore the consequences, and go into repair damage afterwards in January?

Well, that’s their choice. Whatever happens Christmas time should be fun. The main fun about Christmas is catching up with friends and partying. That doesn’t have to mean lots of food and drink. Honestly, who wants to wake up the next day not remembering what happened and feeling ill and awful? Who wants to waste half a day in bed getting over it? ¬†This should be a fun time. Go out and have fun. Don’t deny yourself food or drink but on the other hand just be aware of it, remember your limits, and don’t over do it. ¬†This way you can enjoy everything and everybody, every time.

If you need any help call me. If you want to join my weight loss program in January please call me and book in – 07962 811907.

Great news on weight loss!

December 9, 2012

My extremely supportive weight loss program started in September. After three months those first people are now finishing and the results are really lovely.

Everyone who comes to me for weight loss has been conscious of their figure all their life and tried just about every diet imaginable. They say ‘You are my last resort. If this doesn’t work I don’t know what I’ll do’ ¬†This is pretty scary stuff, but what a challenge!

During this time we have learned many things.

  • That food shouldn’t be the total focus of weight loss. A many pronged approach is mandatory.
  • That weight gain is not necessarily genetic.
  • That there is always something blocking weight loss when diets haven’t worked, and no ordinary diet program looks at this.
  • That a blockage may even be something that someone said years ago that, ‘just stuck’ like; ¬†‘You look just like your mother’, or ¬†‘You’ll get sick if you are too thin’ or ‘ You’ll never change’.Things that hit a spot and keep subliminally repeating throughout your life.
  • Often blockages are something that happened that someone has never ever told anyone, they have been too ashamed to. These need to be gently and safely cleared and this doesn’t take long, perhaps only 20 minutes, and what a relief!
  • That weight loss happens in it’s own time. A mindset change has to happen first.
  • That having a wonderful figure isn’t the most important thing in this world. It’s the way you feel about yourself that matters.
  • That eating is just eating. You need to eat to survive. Your thoughts do not need to be constantly on the subject of food.

I could go on and on. Suffice to say that diets don’t work for many, many reasons and every single person is different. Finding what works for you is the key. It is an unravelling process but the results can be amazing and life changing. If you want to lose weight you need to find someone professional who is prepared to work with you on this and my program is really proving itself now.

Do you stress or worry?

December 9, 2012

A good 80% of the hundreds of people I see annually would have anxiety related symptoms: from bed wetters as young as 5 to older people worrying. Yet, I only see the tip of a huge iceberg.

So much day-to-day stuff upsets people: lack of confidence, being watched; presentations, work situations, redundancy and money issues; panic and phobias; coping with kids and relationships; school issues, exams and driving tests; toilet issues, medical treatment, pain; getting pregnant, weight gain; even deep trauma from years ago; and many more.

If you suffer worry or anxiety issues they can be changed. Remember that the more you repeat them the more ingrained they become and after a while you may give up trying and start thinking that this is just the way you are. But it isn’t!  You can change, you can get out of that spiraling loop. There is absolutely no point going through your life repeating the same negative behavior time after time. Get help from someone that knows what to do. Get help and deal with it! You will feel so different after.

Calmness is what we aim for and here are a few steps to help you now.

  1. BREATHE.  This is easy. You are continually breathing, so just take a deeper breath, hold it for a second and then let it go slowly. Anxiety involves shallow breathing, the lungs don’t get the oxygen they need, so more quick breaths are needed. Stopping for a slightly deeper breath strengthens you, the oxygen goes deep inside, you focus on your breathing and it breaks the fear cycle. Practice breathing properly.
  2. THINK. If you are concerned about anything THINK before you engage your mouth. What comes out in a heated moment is something you can never take back. Many people have said or done something they regret. (If something like this has happened to you already then something can be done. It is no use carrying the scar around to remind you forever.)
  3. ACT.  After breathing to calm yourself down, and thinking about what you are about to say, then ACT in a responsible way. See the situation for what it is and take control of yourself. Cut the worry, cut the small talk, let go of the negative thoughts, and respond in the right way for the situation.  It may just need a smile, it may be you walk away from it and let others manage, or it may be you carry on with something else. Whatever you choose will be better than what you previously did.

There are lots of ways you can be helped. After a first session you will notice the difference in some way, after a month it will be much better and after 3 months you will have almost forgotten about it.

New blog – Marilyn’s motivating marathon mindsets

December 9, 2012

runningfeetYes, I decided to start another blog and why not?  Since its the start of the London Marathon training season there must be thousands of people out there looking for help and ideas to train and maybe I can help. Well, I know I can.

Over 90% of your sports success comes from having the right mindset. So, if you are a runner it is time to make sure you get it right. Shoot on over to the blog here