More on Tapping World Summit

May 12th covers weight.

There is one workshop on ‘ Body image and weight loss, something that finally works’ with well known EFTer Carol Tuttle, and Australian Steve Wells from tappingdownunder.com demonstrates how tapping can deal with fattening foods. How to take control of food cravings.

These will be well worth listening to. I am incorporating a lot of this work into my weight loss sessions continuing my improvement as I, too, listen and gain new ideas.

To listen for free go here http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4722101

Tapping bears

I spent last weekend in Lancashire learning how to use my two magic tapping bears, Honey and Brown. Oh, I ‘d forgotten you have already met Brown (he was catching up on his beauty sleep, but he soon woke up when a friend arrived)  Don’t they look cute? They are soft and cuddly.

Notice how they have little red heart buttons in just the right places for meridian tapping. You actually can put your problems into the bear, tap the bear and release your problems at the same time. It is rather unusual but most effective.

Weight loss – getting it right

Last month I mentioned how our life is like a road, we have to get on the right one or we end up someplace else.

For the likes of people who are carrying excess fat, unless they are doing something about it, they are on the road to Fatter and to More Miserable which lead to Diabetes, Heart disease, and to Illness.

This seems a bit defeatist but it is proven to them daily by the way they eat in secret, eat too much, and always go on diets. “Oh, that one worked, I lost 5 stone”, I hear people say when they come. But they have put it all back on, so how did it work? There must have been something wrong.

There is one consolation about diets, people at least get a taste of how good it feels to have energy, and a waist, and wear off-the-shelf clothes. They loved it but why did it all go back on? Did they not kick their bad eating habits?  Did they not continue exercising? Weren’t they strong enough to withstand a blip?

I have been dealing with weight issues for some years now, completely naturally. Half a stone a month is great to keep it off permanently, so for 5 stone that may well be almost a year. It is the first 3 months that counts. Once you get in the zone and put things in perspective it all becomes second nature. Using hypnotherapy and EFT (emotional freedom technique) I start people thinking positively, we look at what they eat, when, and why. After a couple of consultations they say things like ‘I wasn’t even thinking about it and I left food on my plate’ or ‘It was bizzare, I only ate one!’

For weight loss you have to deal with the triggers that make you eat. Perhaps it is loneliness, difficult kids, the inability to cope, lack of confidence, a void, or something from the past that is hidden deep and the fat is protecting it so wont go away. These have to be dealt with. Diets don’t address these issues. And, it is no use thinking no one understands you. When people come I make it my business to.

Of course, to lose weight you need to have a positive attitude, awareness of what and how much is going in your mouth, and also some exercise to tone the muscles to take up the slack when the fat leaves. This is all part of my job.

If you are obese get a thorough medical check, and include thyroid, candida, and, in women, fibroids.  I am sure your doctor will think of other things too, and call me for a chat.

Various and more horse riding

The fun in my work is the variety. People come for all sorts of things: snoring, teeth grinding, and sleeping; flying, needles, thunder and claustro phobias; finding, mending and improving relationships; and, as I have mentioned before, emotional stressy stuff that brings on anxiety, anger, sadness, comfort eating, drinking and smoking. Often entwined these can be unpicked and leave a person really pleasantly changed within a few weeks, or a few months. The trick is motivation, want to do it, ask for help, and then let it happen.

I love working with sports and creative people; too, they so know what they want to improve.  Whether it be a better lap time, a more consistent round of golf, a new technique, dealing with self-consciousness during a performance, a higher note sung, focus to finish a book… there is so much fun in helping them achieve.

Talking about horse riding today. I admire people with horses, they have the tenacity and figures to prove their daily commitment and responsibility. However, I do have riders come who have lost confidence, are scared, anxious and not riding. They are thinking about having to sell their horse, and yet they really want to ride.

Jo was one such person. Her lovely, patient, horse was spooked one day, and took off. She couldn’t stop him. It was really frightening, she very nearly fell off. After that she was fearful about riding him out on her own. That was three months ago. As well as acute anxiety she also felt guilt and anger that she hadn’t controlled him.

Someone at the stable had been to see me about her fear of cantering and was really appreciative of the results. She and Jo talked and Jo gave me a call.

I always take the time to get the full picture. Jo was all tense. We needed to release some negative tension and started the process with some tapping on her energy lines. EFT (emotional Freedom Technique) works a treat for emotional release. She came back for her second session and reported how much calmer she had been, including a riding lesson that went really well, some unusually calm behaviour at home and at work. She was feeling pretty pleased with herself already.

In her second session we dealt with the horse incident and this brought up another anxiety issue from way back. She felt the release and it felt good. She once again left smiling. I was proud of her, she was ready for this. Hypnotherapy followed a week later and she was able to go riding afterwards on her own and even had an exhillerating canter!

Our next goal is to deal with her fear of riding without stirrups.

I have no doubt that her new confidence will ensure she enjoys riding, and over time various other things she hadn’t even anticipated will improve too. This is such positive work!

I guess there may be someone else out there who feels like Jo and may like to deal with it like she did. Just phone, we can do it together.

Some nice recent successes

I am delighted to see people coming in having made such delightful changes and periodically like to report on these. Maybe it will help someone else who is considering coming to see me.

Some people spend a lot of unnecessary time worrying. One such man came to see me because it was getting out of hand. He has been paranoid about his teenage son going out at night. So bad that the whole family is on edge. He couldn’t sleep and was even sitting in the car in the middle of the night just in case the boy rang and needed a lift home. He came into his third and last session with a big smile on his face. Not only is he more relaxed, rational, and trusting of the son but he had been in a work meeting that morning and comfortably put his point forward which he has never have done previously.

Just this week a man returned after a year. He’s a middle aged city businessman who had been consuming too much alcohol and had put on way too much weight. He had 2 sessions last April and I hadn’t heard back from him. He was looking really good having lost over a stone and a half. This was due to the cut back on the wine, and less pizzas. He was just coming back, as I often recommend, for a one session boost to keep him on track.

Teachers suffer lots of stress which can bring on IBS. Hypnotherapy is recognised as a good treatment for IBS. Since January, and over 5 sessions, I have been seeing a caring head teacher with little time to herself. Like all my clients she is getting a very personalised service and has recordings to listen to between sessions. I was delighted to hear this week that despite her increased work demands her stomach has settled down and she has had 2 weeks where she hasn’t been in pain or suffered the crippling IBS cramps she has had for years.  This is good news for us to build on.

Another lady this week was pleased to let me know her weight is leaving at long last. We have had about 3 sessions over 5 weeks.  She has stopped biting her nails and was thrilled to show me them growing. She has dropped off a pile of worrying about her grownup kids, and the scales are starting to show that what we are doing is all working. She was buzzing and it was so good to see.

And talking about buzzing I worked with EFT to help shift some tinnitus this week. It was quite bizarre the way it worked. While it was his very first session with me, and all new to him, I am hopeful we may be able to make more progress next time.

Everyone is different and so we fine tune it between us as we go.

Anxiety problems

Approximately 80% of people I see come with anxiety of one form or another. Anything from presentation anxiety to driving and flying anxieties, and then to deep rooted worries from maybe sexual abuse, bereavements, relationship issues or a myriad of others.

Sleeplessness, night time teeth grinding, tenseness, snappiness, or withdrawal can be a direct result of anxiety or worry.

If you have acute anxiety, it becomes a panic attack and you will know what I mean. You are in a certain situation and then all of a sudden your palms get sweaty, your heart starts pounding, your chest feels tight, maybe your breathing becomes shallow. You tense up, a knot develops in your stomach, or butterflies. Maybe you feel nauseous, have trouble thinking clearly or speaking legibly. Most sufferers just want to run and hide. This is not nice.

In most cases as one symptom is felt the next one is anticipated, and then the next. This self monitoring makes the symptoms develop more. The expectation is there, they will happen.  And the worst thing about this is that it happens more frequently and you have no control over it. This can be very frightening and certainly saps energy, and self confidence.

Many withdraw, avoid situations, so they don’t feel embarrassed in front of others.

Women can get this way, especially when they feel self conscious about their weight, and often weight issues go right back to old anxieties. And I know men can get anxious when it comes to work presentations and they often find they cannot progress in their jobs until they deal with it.

Children can get like this, too, at exam times, and often as a result of bullying or verbal abuse, or just pressure to meet their parents’ expectations.

The trick is to break the pattern in a safe and helpful way, and it can be done quite easily if one just asks for the right, objective help to do so. And the nicest thing is that when these old responses are released all of a sudden the world opens up and so many nice things happen.

A recent example was a lovely 16 year old boy whose mother brought for help to relieve his flying anxiety, prior to a school trip. It took three sessions to deal with his issues. He not only had a great trip but the anxiety he had experienced at exam time was also gone.  He is very happy with the outcome, more relaxed, more self confident, and his mother has commented on his new maturity. It has been a good result for the whole family.

Perhaps you know of someone who feels anxious in some way? Please suggest they seek help. Life is too short to waste in worry, fear and tightness. If anyone wants to know more do visit my website and check out the stress and anxiety page and then call for a chat. Maybe I can help.

Tapping for stress and overwhelm

If you are a tapper here are a couple of EFT tapping routines to help you right now (courtesy of Nick Ortner of The Tapping Solution)

If you are not a tapper then it is really time to learn how to be one.  One session is all it takes for the basics.  Although it seems strange simple EFT tapping can make such a difference to your life in such a short time, especially for stress.

1.  General Overwork and Overstress

Karate Chop:  Even though I’m totally overworked,  really stressed out and have WAY too much to do…. I deeply and completely accept myself

(Repeat the above phrase three times while tapping on the karate chop point)

Eyebrow: Way too much to do…
Side of the Eye:  My “to-do” list is a mile long…
Under Eye: When will I ever get it done?
Under Nose: I’ll never get it done…
Under Mouth: I’m overworked and stressed out….
Collarbone: When can I relax?
Under the Arm: I can’t seem to relax
Top of the Head: Too much to do…

(Repeat the above phrases a couple of times, you can throw in your own phrases as well, and when you feel significant relief, move on to the positive phrases)

Eyebrow: I chose to relax now…
Side of the Eye: I chose to REALLY relax now…
Under the Eye: I’ll never get it ALL done…
Under Nose: And that’s ok…
Under Mouth: I chose to slow down and take a breath…
Collarbone: I am not my “to-do” list…
Under the Arm: I am good enough no matter what I get done…
Top of the Head: I chose to relax and let it go now…

2.  Cultural Drive To Do More and Be More

Karate Chop:  Even though society says I need to work harder, to do more, be more and never stop, I deeply and completely accept myself

(Repeat the above phrase three times while tapping on the karate chop point)

Eyebrow: I need to keep working…
Side of the Eye: I have to do more…
Under Eye: I need to be more…
Under Nose: I can never stop…
Under Mouth: I have to keep up…
Collarbone: Need to keep going…
Under the Arm: Can never stop…
Top of the Head: Gotta keep going…

Repeat the above phrases a couple of times, you can throw in your own phrases as well, and when you feel significant relief, move on to the positive phrases

Eyebrow: I chose to slow down….
Side of the Eye: I chose to breathe….
Under Eye: I am perfect as I am….
Under Nose: I can chose my own way…
Under Mouth: I don’t have to be like anyone else….
Collarbone: Society can keep going crazy, I chose to relax…
Under the Arm: I choose whether to work more or not…
Top of the Head: It’s all within my control….

Keep tapping until you get relief!

These are just general phrases to get you started and bring you some relief.

Make sure to pay attention to what came up for YOU.  Jot down whatever specific event, issue or memory these phrases triggered, and then work on tapping those down.

If you feel stuck, or just want to take your tapping to the next level, consider coming for some in depth work to  learn more and really shift it. Read about EFT and  phone 07962 811907

Happy tapping!

1.  General Overwork and Overstress 

Karate Chop:  Even though I’m totally overworked,
really stressed out and have WAY too much to
do…. I deeply and completely accept myself

(Repeat the above phrase three times while
Tapping on the karate chop point)

Eyebrow: Way too much to do…
Side of the Eye:  My “to-do” list is a mile long…
Under Eye: When will I ever get it done?
Under Nose: I’ll never get it done…
Under Mouth: I’m overworked and stressed out….
Collarbone: When can I relax?
Under the Arm: I can’t seem to relax
Top of the Head: Too much to do…

(Repeat the above phrases a couple of times,
you can throw in your own phrases as well, and
when you feel significant relief, move on to
the positive phrases)

Eyebrow: I chose to relax now…
Side of the Eye: I chose to REALLY relax now…
Under the Eye: I’ll never get it ALL done…
Under Nose: And that’s ok…
Under Mouth: I chose to slow down and take a breath…
Collarbone: I am not my “to-do” list…
Under the Arm: I am good enough no matter
what I get done…
Top of the Head: I chose to relax and let it go now…

2.  Cultural Drive To Do More and Be More

Karate Chop:  Even though society says I need
to work harder, to do more, be more and never stop,
I deeply and completely accept myself

(Repeat the above phrase three times while tapping
on the karate chop point)

Eyebrow: I need to keep working…
Side of the Eye: I have to do more…
Under Eye: I need to be more…
Under Nose: I can never stop…
Under Mouth: I have to keep up…
Collarbone: Need to keep going…
Under the Arm: Can never stop…
Top of the Head: Gotta keep going…

(Repeat the above phrases a couple of times,
you can throw in your own phrases as well, and
when you feel significant relief, move on to
the positive phrases)

Eyebrow: I chose to slow down….
Side of the Eye: I chose to breathe….
Under Eye: I am perfect as I am….
Under Nose: I can chose my own way…
Under Mouth: I don’t have to be like anyone else….
Collarbone: Society can keep going crazy, I chose
to relax…
Under the Arm: I choose whether to work more or not…
Top of the Head: It’s all within my control….

Keep tapping until you get relief!

These are just general phrases to get you started and
bring you some relief.

Make sure to pay attention to what came up for YOU.

Jot down whatever specific event, issue or memory these
phrases triggered, and then work on tapping those
down.

If you feel stuck, or just want to take your tapping to
the next level, consider finding a practitioner to work with.

What to look for when choosing a hypnotherapist

Continuing the article below….

When you choose a hypnotherapist make sure you are very comfortable with speaking to them on the phone.  A hypnotherapist’s major tool is his/her voice.  You need to like the sound of their voice first, the tone, the lift, the accent, the volume.  This is imperative.

It is important, too, that the hypnotherapist listens to you and gives you good feedback showing an understanding which indicates that they have experience with the symptoms you have.  Whoever you choose needs to have your agenda and your positive outcome at heart.

Check out their website prior, make sure it is up to date. You will be able to get an idea of how professional they are by browsing the pages.  Some therapists have only trained for a matter of weeks while others have trained for some years, look for this information, and read testimonials.

Some therapists work a normal day job and do this part time, experience is slow to gain that way.  Some charge too little because they want to attract clients, others may charge higher to pay for premises and location.  Work within your own budget and don’t be afraid to mention money, there may be cheaper options available.

Recommendations are powerful it is worth asking your friends if they know someone. You may be pleasantly surprised to discover that they have done this too at some stage.

Find out as much as you can prior to contacting someone and go with your gut instinct.  If you are not happy during the first session, leave early and don’t pay, no therapist should work with someone that does not get on with them, and vice versa.

Therapy is your choice your health will improve if you feel at ease and comfortable with a competent therapist, whether it be a hypnotherapist and EFT therapist or any other therapist.

Your car, your body – mechanics and healers

Here is an interesting analogy.

If you were looking for a car mechanic you would expect them to have a suitable clean workshop with benches and lots of tools and equipment.  I am sure you would be casting your eye around this workshop before agreeing to have your car repaired here.  This area will reflect the quality of service you would perhaps receive.

You would also be looking at the mechanic himself and his general demeanour and customer service.  Such is business. You naturally check out a person to  help you with things you are not skilled to do. If you are not happy with what you see, you will choose not to proceed and find someone else.

Well, we spend a lot of time and money choosing the right people to help us make sure our houses, cars, childrens schools, and all sorts of other things, are as we would expect them to be, safe, in good repair, up to our standard.

When it comes to our bodies, what keeps us moving, running efficiently and in good repair, do we spend the same amount?  Often the answer is No.  All too often we push the ache and pain, the anger flare up, the sadness and tears to one side and think, ‘ Ít’ll be better in the morning’.

Often it has to be really bad to actually make the appointment and visit the Doctor/mechanic.  Sometimes the car is in such a state major repairs need to be undertaken,  it has to have lengthy tests, you need a more advanced mechanic and it’s going to take alot more time and money than you expected, it’s a major overhaul.  The trouble with this body/car is that you cannot say ‘ It will be cheaper, more efficient, to just get a new one” and then go trade it in.

Your body is your most valued asset, far in excess of anything else you own.  Without it running efficiently who would do those everyday things like supporting the partner and growing children, running the house, the car, the day to day activities. If your body is in the garage who would be bringing the money in, how would you manage, how would those dear to you manage?

Doctors are mechanics with tools to make diagnostics, take apart and repair the body and also a selection of oils they recommend to help it to run more smoothly.  However, this may not be the entire answer for you and you may wish to choose someone else to help you be better.

Choosing someone else is important.  See the next article

Mental golf with Shirley

Well, maybe it’s time to note my golf progress. Haphazard, is all I can say!

While I have been going to my nice ladies group lessons most every Thursday morning and playing the 3 par afterwards that has not been enough. I need to get out on the 18 holes and get the practice under my belt.  The others are doing this, they have their handicap cards, they are playing 2 and 3 times a week. To put it simply they are progressing and I am not. In fact I am still hitting lots of stupid shots, over analysing my swing and rushing into it in my normal get on and do it fashion.  How silly is that? But, I havent been able to stop it, which is worse for me, a hypnotherapist.

Golf has not been my priority this year, however, I am quite competitive and don’t like to be left behind. To sort this out  I have teamed up with another hypnotherapist, Shirley, who is much the same as me. We are going to help each other with our mental golf game and are including rounds of golf with no mental pressure at all. And I am talking no pressure, no worries about who is behind, in front, watching, criticising, or even thinking about talking to us. A calm game of focused golf is what we have in mind!

For our first basic exercise was one to stimulate positive thinking with our fantastic tapping technique EFT.  We started it on Monday and today, Thursday, I played so much better.

‘Even though I am stilll rubbish after all this time, I am open to change’

‘I now choose to hit the ball well and enjoy my golf”

‘I can can hit the ball straight and accurate, straight and accurate is good’

If you are a tapper and a golfer then follow along.  If you are a golfer but haven’t learned tapping,  it is time you did.  (I do phone and skype sessions for this)

Watch this space.